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What next after Maternity Leave? #Superbloggerchallenge2018

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Once you experience childbirth, the next few months spent in trying to adjust and adapt. By the time the feeling of motherhood sinks in, a working woman faces the dilemma of whether to resume work or not.

If you are working in India, then you are eligible for six months of paid maternity leave. For a mother even the six months time period seems less. The child is solely dependent on mother for first six months of life and suddenly overnight the mother leaves the kid to go work. Thankfully, there are few organizations who are understanding and help a returning mother.

If you are sailing through the same boat, I would advice not to stress too much. Give yourself a break, this is a new phase of your life and you will do alright. Get a makeover and be confident! Learn to prioritize your time while at work. The coffee breaks during the day might decrease but its all for greater good.

If you are one of the ambitious ones, you might secretly be waiting to join work. Don’t feel guilty about it, there is no reason not to focus on your career after having a child. You will be able to maintain a work-life balance. First few months might be difficult. But, every dark cloud has a silver lining!

Be ready to accept help and trust others. It’s perfectly fine if you let a close family member or trusted friend take care of your child during the day. It might sound harsh, but if need be, then do not hesitate to keep your child in a day care.

At every step there will be people judging you for how you raise your child. Be assured that a mother’s instinct is best for her child. If you feel something is right, then do it. Do not fret over it. And, go get it girl!

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

P.S. – Rather than advising others, this post is self-reminder for me that everything is alright. 🙂

Questions and answers! #Superbloggerchallenge2018

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How is work ? What are your plans for future ? What’s up this weekend ? – Uff, it seems like we are bombarded with questions at every step we take.

You are expected to have an answer for every question. But some questions do not have direct answers. Questions are not binary codes which can be made up of 0’s and 1’s. There are infinite numbers and so is the possibility of infinite answers to the same question.

What may be a correct choice for you might not suit me. So stop asking why, what, how every time. Sometimes its good to not have an answer. You might be expecting to hear what you want but reality may be far from it. Rather you might get offended or hurt at what you hear.

At times the best thing is to just let go. Do not probe or try to find answers. There are situations in life when you don’t know what to do. You run after them to find correct answers. Maybe you are not meant to find an answer.

By no means am I saying that you should run away from difficult situations. Rather, it might be good to sit tight and watch how things play out. Maybe you will get an answer then or may be not. Does it really matter?

Are you sure you want to find answers to every question that you face? I certainly do not want it. Sometimes its easier to let go. Take a step back, think from a different perspective and may be then you will find your answer. Even better option would be to talk to someone close, whom you trust. Maybe they can help you untangle the mystery.

Have you ever faced a situation when you did not know what to do? How did you cope up with it? Do share your thoughts with us.

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

5 things you should never tell a new mom! #Superbloggerchallenge2018

Motherhood is a nerve-racking experience where your hormones play havoc & to top that there are people giving unsolicited advice. You might have thought after pregnancy you will not be dealing with the nosy aunties & uncles. Bet you were wrong! If you are visiting a new mom then remember these five things you should never say to them.

  1. Watch your weight – She does not need to know how soon you had lost your baby weight. She is an individual & everybody has a unique body type. You do not need to brag about it. Let her be herself!
  2. Breastfeeding or formula – What a mother decides for her child is a private affair. You are not welcome to comment on it. This is not a general discussion topic. Though breastfeeding is mandatory for first six months, there can be rare circumstances which need an alternative.
  3. Her baby cries too much – A baby has needs which a mother knows best. She understands her child’s cry and expressions. Do not always tell her that the baby is fussy so it needs to fed. Baby might need a diaper change or could be sleepy or be tired. Do not interfere too much with how a mother handles her child.
  4. Catch your sleep when baby sleeps – This is practically the most absurd suggestion I have heard. A new-born cries-feeds-burps-vomits-poops-sleeps, this is a vicious cycle. By the time mother can sit the child is up again. And there are a gazillion things to do when a baby sleeps. Instead of commenting, help her out by taking up household tasks.
  5. Discuss her future plans – A mother may decide to stay at home for her kids or join her job back. It’s her decision & she will weigh out all her options. Do not make her feel guilty if she joins office & do not make her feel insignificant if she chooses to stay at home.

I am sure you can relate to few of these pointers. Do share what was the most annoying suggestion you ever got?

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

Hacking – A Blogger’s nightmare! #Superbloggerchallenge2018

Each one of us has their own version of nightmare. A person, thing or a situation which you fear the most. A blogger’s worst fears come alive when they are denied access to their blog. Getting a mailer that your website content is hacked or has malicious content is a terrible thing. And, I have faced this issue recently.

Last weekend, I woke up to mailers that some of my web pages have been hacked by a third-party. To be honest, this was a first timer for me and I cannot express my anger in simpler words. Why would anyone want to do that? It’s not that my blog holds million dollars code which you would want to hack. It’s a simple blog where I share my thoughts of here and there.

Coming back to the point, few web pages are hacked – the solution should be simple enough. I will find the spam pages & delete them. Alas, things don’t run so easily. My password stopped working and login was disabled. Thus, I was out of the loop completely. It took lots of effort & support from the hosting provider to get back the access.

The story does not end here. Even after getting the access, it is a mess. I had to search and delete malicious content. The theme is amiss, background images are missing and the widgets are corrupted. As soon as I edit one widget, the other stops working. Thankfully, the blog posts were not deleted!

Recovering & setting up the blog is a time-consuming task and requires baby steps. On the bright side, I was thinking of renovating the blog since long. Now, I have the chance & time to get it done. I also learnt some major security lessons from this. Every dark cloud has silver lining. 🙂

I will get carried away and fill pages on this and few questions will still haunt me. Why does a hacker hack? What pleasures do you get from it? You need to find yourself a new hobby.

Have you ever faced this issue? How did you cope with it and what steps did you take to make your blog more secure? Do share your thoughts with us!

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

Things all pregnant women hear! #SUPERBLOGGERCHALLENGE2018

You should add butter to your food. You should gain more weight. Aren’t you too fat already?  – Do these questions remind you something or someone? Well, these are just some of the questions that either you or other pregnant women around you are asked everyday.

Pregnancy is a beautiful phase & everyone around you has some piece of advice for you.  And, the wisdom of others is no doubt helpful. But, where should you draw the line? Some people have no idea of when to stop. It can be your nosy next door neighbor or a random stranger in market. Nothing stops them for giving unsolicited advice!

There were many genuine suggestions that I got during my pregnancy and  I am thankful for it. But, today I am going to list the questions/suggestions that irked me a lot!

  • Do not eat that!

According to my next-door-aunty, all my favorite food are harmful for my baby.  Want Chinese food, you cannot have it. Crave for some Pasta, that’s no good either. Only home-made food with dripping butter is good to have. It’s time to eat more sweets, else you might not have a healthy child. To that Aunty ji, thanks but no thanks!

  • Are you sure you are ready to take care of a child? You would lose all your sleep.

A pregnant women has too much to think of,  please do not add more to her worries. Planned or unplanned, she is giving birth to a child, so obviously she has thought about it and is ready.  Give her some love and support, encourage her!

  • You are the mother, don’t depend too much on husband

I have lost count of how many people had told me this. I understand that in earlier times the roles of men & women in a household had rigid boundaries. Now, as we move towards nuclear family why am I the only one responsible for our child? My husband is equally responsible and he understands his duties towards our baby.

  • You have become fat.

Thanks for the reminder, I was unaware of it. A new life is taking form inside me, so yes I know I have gained weight.  If someone is too thin or too fat, let them be. Stop body shaming pregnant women!

  • Any day now ?

Once you are in your last trimester, random people will come up to you with this question. You can be in office or out shopping. By the time my child was born, I was fed up people repeating the same question every time they met me. If only I could wash those smirked looks on their faces!

It might seem like I have a grudge against people giving me suggestions. But that’s not true! I had support of wonderful family & friends who were there for me. Ready to hear out my random blabber & calm me down. Still, dealing with the bunch of nosy aunties is a momentous task. Don’t be that nosy aunty. If someone around you is pregnant then help them, encourage them, keep them happy!

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

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