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Things all pregnant women hear! #SUPERBLOGGERCHALLENGE2018

You should add butter to your food. You should gain more weight. Aren’t you too fat already?  – Do these questions remind you something or someone? Well, these are just some of the questions that either you or other pregnant women around you are asked everyday.

Pregnancy is a beautiful phase & everyone around you has some piece of advice for you.  And, the wisdom of others is no doubt helpful. But, where should you draw the line? Some people have no idea of when to stop. It can be your nosy next door neighbor or a random stranger in market. Nothing stops them for giving unsolicited advice!

There were many genuine suggestions that I got during my pregnancy and  I am thankful for it. But, today I am going to list the questions/suggestions that irked me a lot!

  • Do not eat that!

According to my next-door-aunty, all my favorite food are harmful for my baby.  Want Chinese food, you cannot have it. Crave for some Pasta, that’s no good either. Only home-made food with dripping butter is good to have. It’s time to eat more sweets, else you might not have a healthy child. To that Aunty ji, thanks but no thanks!

  • Are you sure you are ready to take care of a child? You would lose all your sleep.

A pregnant women has too much to think of,  please do not add more to her worries. Planned or unplanned, she is giving birth to a child, so obviously she has thought about it and is ready.  Give her some love and support, encourage her!

  • You are the mother, don’t depend too much on husband

I have lost count of how many people had told me this. I understand that in earlier times the roles of men & women in a household had rigid boundaries. Now, as we move towards nuclear family why am I the only one responsible for our child? My husband is equally responsible and he understands his duties towards our baby.

  • You have become fat.

Thanks for the reminder, I was unaware of it. A new life is taking form inside me, so yes I know I have gained weight.  If someone is too thin or too fat, let them be. Stop body shaming pregnant women!

  • Any day now ?

Once you are in your last trimester, random people will come up to you with this question. You can be in office or out shopping. By the time my child was born, I was fed up people repeating the same question every time they met me. If only I could wash those smirked looks on their faces!

It might seem like I have a grudge against people giving me suggestions. But that’s not true! I had support of wonderful family & friends who were there for me. Ready to hear out my random blabber & calm me down. Still, dealing with the bunch of nosy aunties is a momentous task. Don’t be that nosy aunty. If someone around you is pregnant then help them, encourage them, keep them happy!

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

Motherhood – the gift of a lifetime! #FeedIQ

“Babies are bits of star-dust blown from the hand of God. Lucky the woman who knows the pangs of birth for she has held a star.”

– Larry Barretto

Embracing motherhood is the biggest challenge that a woman can ever face. To be responsible for a new life is a momentous task! You take the leap from thinking about yourself to thinking about your child. Life goes from me to us and you experience unexpected transformations in life.

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From living a 9-to-5 life to a 24*7 life is a big thing. Binge-watching TV shows and impromptu night-outs become a thing of the past. When will the kid sleep, when will he eat or when will he poop: all these factors are taken into consideration while making simple decisions like when to go out.

I have always been the one to believe in multitasking and pregnancy taught me how to put my abilities to good use. You can be relaxing while gazillion things go through your mind. Juggling between office and home with pregnancy made me a better organizer.  And, I hope my kids can also learn the skills to prioritize and be confident enough to sail through tough times.

Pregnancy can be a very confusing time with umpteen questions grazing through your mind: what to eat, what to expect, how to help with baby brain development, and more. Here’s where joining prenatal classes can come in handy.

How can prenatal classes help?

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The prenatal classes make parenting easy and help parents to prepare what to expect. Few of the benefits are listed below –

  • Help understanding pregnancy – Prenatal classes conduct sessions to explain baby growth during pregnancy. The classes help you track healthy developments in your pregnancy, and teach you the warning signs for when something might go wrong. Being aware will help you avoid the risk of premature delivery which can result in incomplete brain development.
  • Understanding the importance of healthy nutrition during pregnancy – The classes help you by providing proper diet charts mentioning food rich with folic acid, vitamins, minerals, protein, and iron that help to boost your baby’s IQ. Right food during pregnancy leads to improved health of the baby at birth. You can read more about your nutrition requirement here.
  • Teach exercises to ease pregnancy  Many prenatal classes conduct workout sessions for expecting mothers. As little as 20 minutes of exercise three times per week can advance a newborn’s brain activity. Aerobic exercise increases mitochondrial activity in a mother’s brain, and this effect crosses the placenta and benefits the fetal brain as well.
  • Teach relaxation techniques  The emotional and physical changes during pregnancy can cause stress in few mothers. High-stress level causes cortisol hormone to be released into the body which can interfere with the fetal development. Relaxing techniques like prenatal yoga and meditation help you relax.
  • Teach auditory stimulation and tactile stimulation techniques – At 20 weeks, your baby’s hearing becomes fully developed and baby reacts when you talk. At 28 weeks you can feel the baby movements through mother’s belly. The prenatal classes help in understanding this and teach you to respond to the child by either reading books, singing or pressing the belly whenever you feel the kicks. It is the best way to boost your baby’s IQ and language development. Visit here to know more about the importance of stimulation techniques.

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  • Conduct breastfeeding classes – The classes teach breastfeeding mechanism to new mothers. The nutritional requirements of a baby are fully dependent on a mother in the early stages of life which helps develop infant cognition, thereby creating a fertile ground for better IQ. For more details on breastfeeding basics,visit this page.
  • Debunk myths of labor by rehearsal sessions – The prenatal classes conduct the session on what to expect during labor and delivery. They teach symptoms to identify when labor starts and the pain relief options that can make labor comfortable.
  • Conduct couple sessions – In keeping with the current times, you can also enroll for couple sessions. These classes help in understanding the importance of a birthing partner. Taking a class together can mean father’s increased involvement in the pregnancy, and can act as a good bonding experience for the child. Like the mother, the father can also benefit from knowing what to expect when the mother goes into labor – and how to assist in that process.
  • Provide support groups for expecting mothers – You can find support from other expectant couples in the class. You can share your joy and concerns with them because they will understand you. They are your ecosystem and you can fall back on them anytime. It’s rightly said that it takes a village to raise a kid!

What is Feed IQ?

Feed IQ literally means that a mother feeds ‘IQ’ to her baby through breastfeeding and stimulation i.e. infant brain exercises. It is helpful for all: pregnant women, term mothers, and pre-term mothers. Some of the information you can find out includes –

  • Track your baby’s growth during pregnancy
  • Nutrition tips for mother
  • Learn exercises and relaxation techniques
  • How to make your pregnancy, labor, and delivery more comfortable
  • Signs to identify labor and various pain relief options
  • Breastfeeding mechanism
  • Baby food tips for pre-term and full-term kids
  • Understand stimulation techniques for baby brain development

There can be conflicting opinions about whether to join prenatal classes or not. At least, the prenatal classes make you less fearful and armed with some childbirth knowledge. It is always better to have the know-how rather than being unprepared for it.The classes offer an extra cushion of comfort during pregnancy and make your birthing journey easy.

DISCLAIMER –

This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions about your medical condition.

My Family vs. Cancer- World Cancer Day!

World Cancer Day is celebrated on 4 February each year. The theme for this year is ‘We Can, I Can’. It’s a global initiative to raise Cancer Awareness and to support your local charities. You can read more about this global initiative here. The Cancer curse had struck my family last year. It took us time to recover and now we have courage to talk about it.

Exactly a year back my spouse suffered from a food allergy. We visited our GP for treatment and were advised to get an ultrasound done as a routine check-up. Who thinks of getting scans done every time you suffer a food allergy? Thus, the thought of getting ultrasound was dismissed in a casual manner.

Within a week he fell sick twice. After this he got an ultrasound done on a whim. The ultrasound report showed cyst formation on his kidney. My family doctor suggested to get further scans done and consult a specialist. One thing leads to another and we found out that it was a large tumor on kidney which had maximum possibility of being cancerous.

The rest of the month went in a jiffy with frequent tests & the urgent surgery which was performed to operate upon tumor. The biopsy results confirmed our worst fears that it was Stage 1 Renal Cell Carcinoma (Kidney Cancer). Lucky enough the cancerous cell had not spread in body and it was detected at early stage.

Cancer treatment is a painful process and a lifelong commitment. We had our moments of doubt, but faith kept us going. Nothing in life could have ever prepared us for facing Cancer. You never realize the extent of stress till it hits you. I cannot exactly feel what my spouse went through during whole treatment. We are thankful to have a strong support system in terms of family and friends.

As a child, I have also seen my grandmother being treated for breast cancer. She lived a healthy life till long after her surgery. On both occasions in my family, cancer detection was an accidental finding. Early detection is the key to cancer treatment.

This World Cancer Day take a pledge to get your health check-up done. Do it for yourself and your loved ones. Cancer symptoms may not show up until it’s too late. Regular health screening is the way to go. If you or your loved one have fought cancer, then I am sending loads of love across to you. You are not alone in this battle. I would be honoured to know how you have kicked Cancer and how did you cope with it. Because together we can & we will!

Do share the post to help raise Cancer Awareness and to support those battling it.

Story of Terminal 1! #WriteBravely

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“All international departures are from Terminal 1”, reminded my roommate for the hundredth time.

“I know, I will reach on time. Don’t worry”, I replied.

“Suhani, you need to stop being a mother hen for all your friends. Go out, shop & party! Make a profile on Tinder at least now”. These were my parting words to my roommate & best friend. Even as I joked she could sense my unsaid emotions. Afterall, she had stayed with me through thick & thin.

The journey to airport was uneventful. After completing all boarding formalities, I sat at the coffee shop with a book in my hand. There were so many thoughts racing through my mind. I am returning home after six years and forever this time.

Looks like yesterday when I had first landed on this terminal. You had bumped into me at the immigration counter, throwing my belongings all across the airport floor. You had just smiled. Again, at the taxi bay you had hopped into the cab that I was supposed to take. “Sorry, an emergency need to take the cab asap.”, your first words to me. I should have known you were trouble!

First day at college & I caught your glimpse around the campus. My suspicion was confirmed when you became my student counsellor. Funny, how our fates were entwined. After the awkward first few days, we were quite comfortable with each other. Asking for your help around college to finding hotels when I was missing Indian food! You were my go-to person for all queries.

We had chatted all through my semester break spent at home. I remember the surprise proposal you had planned outside these terminal gates when I had returned from my vacation. “I love you munchkin”, you were always a man of few words. Of Course, I had fallen for you too.

I remember all the flights we have taken together from this terminal. All the vacations or the trips back home have been with you. Remember the time when we had a huge fight and I had flown to my aunt’s home for the holiday season.  

Before long, our parents were asking about our marriage plans. I was so nervous for the journey home to talk to my parents about us & you had been my rock. It was here when you had met my family for the first time. My dad was watching your every move & you had bravely faced him. This terminal has witnessed my laughter & my tears both.

Finally, months of negotiations with our families & they had accepted our relationship. We had travelled like cupid-struck-teenagers for our engagement. People at airport were staring at us, but we simply did not care.

I hated it when you got a job back home and had to leave this country before me. We were going to leave together. I don’t like travelling alone! My thoughts were broken by the flight announcement.

“This is the final call for all passengers travelling on flight A14”. Today, I am taking the final flight from this terminal to be home to get married to the love of my life. I am looking forward to our new journey together, our new jobs and plans to settle in our own country.

As I look back one last time, I know this terminal will always have a special place in my heart. 🙂

I am taking part in the Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge to #WriteBravely. This post is a figment of imagination and has no real life connections:)

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My bag of memories! #WriteBravely

Every place that I have lived or visited has memories attached with it. Our brains are wired to store images continuously. And, these flashes of images make us nostalgic.

Home sweet home!

Whenever I think about my hometown Lucknow, I can relive all 21 years of my life in one go. My home, my school – all set within few kilometers of each other. Then, my maternal grandparents also not too far. The carefree days spent with cousins and friends!

My very first memories go back to spending time with my grandparents. My grandfather used to tell us new stories every night & I used to tease my grandmother by hiding behind doors. And, the summer vacations which were spent at my maternal grandparents home. The Nawabi culture of Lucknow is so embedded in my system that I still use ‘Hum’ & ‘Aap’ for ‘I’ & ‘You’. 🙂

Later, my job then took me across various places in India, with Mumbai being my favorite. I vividly remember the day I had landed in Mumbai. From woolen jackets of Lucknow to cotton shrugs of Mumbai in January. Mumbai – city of dreams had welcomed us with its rhythmic chaos!

Marine Drive, Mumbai

I had revisited Mumbai after three years and still the place was just as lively. Night out at Marine Drive, shopping in Bandra or the Vada pao at every corner of the city! I can write a whole book about my bag of memories.

Isn’t this how we live our lives? Gathering memories each day and replaying them over and over. It’s not only happy memories that shape our world, but also the sad ones! What are your happiest memories? Do you believe that memories shape how we plan our future?

I am taking part in the Write Tribe Problogger October 2017 Blogging Challenge to #WriteBravely.

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