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The longest night!

You had just moved into the recovery room after your surgery. I could see the effect of anesthesia wearing off and you had started feeling the pain. The soft cries that escaped your lips sounded like thunder to my ears.

You wanted to quench your thirst and were biting your dry lips again and again. The doctor’s instruction were clear – no food and water for next 24 hours. Nothing should jeopardize your recovery and so I stood my ground.

The pain must have been exhausting for you. Thankfully, the pain killers worked and you dozed off. I had planned to stay awake whole night and was watching you every ten seconds. At midnight, I was jolted by your cry for help!

My first thoughts were something went amiss in the surgery. And, I was scared. The nurses and the on-call doctors were called in. I vividly remember you trying to speak but were unable to do so clearly. You kept pointing towards your face and no one could understand. More doctors entered the room in time being.

I do not remember who identified the problem first – doctor, nurse or me. But, suddenly everyone in room was talking about your jaw dropping towards right side of the face. The doctors were worried that your body was adversely reacting to anesthesia. For me, it was my worst fears coming alive.

Next thing I remember is your clear words saying, “Jaw stuck”.

Somehow your jaw had dislocated during the day and it was causing you all the pain.The dislocated jaw meant you were unable to close your mouth or speak properly.

Everyone in the room became hyperactive. The orthopedic surgeon on night duty was called in and nurses were contacting your surgeon in case of any emergency.

The doctors tried to set it back into the correct position by manipulating the area back into its proper position.All this while, you kept nudging the doctors away to stop them from touching you. They had to put you under anesthesia to fix your jaw and a heart rate monitor was attached to monitor your pulse.

All this happened in the recovery room itself and your jaw was fixed in no time. The heart rate monitor was left attached to your body for the night with its sharp beeping sounds on. I was terrified to hear it, but at least I knew you were alright.

My night was spent watching your pulse rate numbers fluctuate on that little box and keeping my fingers crossed. I was praying silently to all the Gods to keep you safe, for we had a bright future ahead waiting for us. Throughout this experience, the thought about our yet to be born child was pinching at my heart. And, I know that it also gave you strength to recover fast.

The next morning when you woke up with a faint smile, I knew our prayers were answered.

Living that night with six weeks of pregnancy is one of the daring thing I have ever done. All I wanted was to cry and hug you, but I guess motherhood made me stronger for both of us. I could not give up when you needed me the most.

Have you ever faced such an impossible situation where you wanted to give up? How did your overcome your fear. Share your story in comments. You can read my personal experience here.

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I would like to thank Princy from Clanpedia for introducing me. She is a loving wife and dotting mother of two – a bookworm, traveler, foodie, blogger and an optimist.

Also, I would welcome Siduja from Mytinytigger to share her story of dare. She is a civil engineer and first time mom to a 7-month old,exploring the blogging world with adventures of pregnancy, parenting & mom life.

The unsaid reality of Menstruation!

‘Do not sit with others.’

‘You cannot enter the temple’.

‘Do not touch the pickle’.

‘You cannot sleep besides your husband’.

These words might not mean much to many of us. But, ask a girl who is told this every month for throughout her lifetime. She is given a list of do’s and don’ts to be followed for whenever she is menstruating.

Across the world, different cultures have stigmas attached with periods. The women are confined to a single room in-house. In some cases, even shunned outside villages to live in sheds for ‘that time of the month’. They live in unhygienic conditions and without a proper diet when it is utmost needed.

Some consider the women to be impure and it is a sin for these women to touch any men while on periods. It is improper to talk about periods with male members of the family. When will we realize that this ill-treatment should stop? Rather than neglect, a women needs extra care while menstruating.  It is time that we spoke about it and educate the masses.

Menstruation is medically defined as,

“The process in a woman of discharging blood and other material from the lining of the uterus at intervals of about one lunar month from puberty until the menopause, except during pregnancy.”

Thus, it is a natural bodily function which proves that a girl/women is healthy. And, there is nothing to be ashamed about. Studies also suggest that it eliminates excess iron, which can be a risk factor for cardiovascular disease.

Steps to spread awareness
  • Educating children, both girls and boys, about the periods at an early age to help them understand it.
  • Identify the areas and conduct street play, talk shows in those areas.
  • Correct the people who joke about the ‘PMS’ and educate them about the real symptoms like, headache, backache, nausea, cramping,etc.
  • Adapt the culture where the start of menstrual cycle for a girl is celebrated rather than looked down.
  • Government policies should be introduced for manufacturing safe and hygienic menstrual products.
  • Easy and affordable access for these products to be available to all the women in the country.
  • Most importantly, we should reject the stigma/taboos attached with menstrual cycles and stop shaming girls for it.

This World Menstrual Hygiene Day (May 28), our endeavor is to break the taboo that engulfs this natural phenomenon that is the basis of very existence of human life on earth. This post is a part of a Blog Train hosted by Anupriya of www.mommytincture.com where 14 wonderful ladies have stepped forward to express themselves this #MenstrualHygieneDay and stress on the fact that there are #NoMoreLimits for a woman.

I would like to thank Monica  for introducing me. She shares her thoughts about motherhood journey and life in general through her blog- http://www.mommavya.wordpress.com.

And, also I would like to take this opportunity to introduce Sharvari. She is a recruitment consultant and blogs about Fashion Food and Parenting. Originally from Aamchi Mumbai but living in Melbourne Australia since 2007. Her blog is https://www.mumbai2melbourne.com.

But wait there’s more! You stand a chance to win a DEA Corp Menstrual Cup worth Rs. 2500/-. You just have to visit http://www.mommytincture.com/2018/05/27/menstrual-cups-boon-menstrual-hygiene/ and leave a comment about your #NoMoreLimits experience.

‘S’ for Sister, ‘S’ for Selfie! #Mobiistar

“Having a sister is like having a best friend you can’t get rid of. You know whatever you do, they’ll still be there.” – Amy Li

Having a sister is a blessing and its a privilege if you are a younger sibling. There is always that one person you can count on. They will save you from your parents wrath when you goof up. She is your date for all family events and comes to rescue you from random conversations with Aunty-ji. And, there is always an open wardrobe full of clothes that you can access any time!

If you are both photo-crazy like me and my sister,then you are bound to have albums full of pictures together. Amongst all, this pic is closest to my heart. It was clicked this year when we went back home to attend a family wedding. The photo captures the unspoken bond that we share.

It was like travelling back in time, when we were younger. Sharing the same room and fighting over the TV remote and deciding which side of the bed who will sleep. As kids we used to play together, and this time we were awed by our kids playing. Her not-so-older-kids were taking care of my new-born. Through them we relived our childhood.

We can crib about each other, but dare someone else complain about the other one. As we grow older, new relations are added in our lives. Still, nothing can surpass the love that we have for one another.

Even though I like this picture, but it could have been better if I had Mobiistar smartphone. Mobiistar phone has front, dual selfie camera that captures a 120° wide-angle shot. It surely makes your selfie-experience better. And you an #EnjoyMore with the products functionality. It gives you an edge while capturing all the beautiful memories. Also, you can check more details and buy Mobiistar on Flipkart.

Do you have any favorite memories with your sibling? And do you still fight even if if you have grown old? Would love to hear your stories in comments.

Things all pregnant women hear! #SUPERBLOGGERCHALLENGE2018

You should add butter to your food. You should gain more weight. Aren’t you too fat already?  – Do these questions remind you something or someone? Well, these are just some of the questions that either you or other pregnant women around you are asked everyday.

Pregnancy is a beautiful phase & everyone around you has some piece of advice for you.  And, the wisdom of others is no doubt helpful. But, where should you draw the line? Some people have no idea of when to stop. It can be your nosy next door neighbor or a random stranger in market. Nothing stops them for giving unsolicited advice!

There were many genuine suggestions that I got during my pregnancy and  I am thankful for it. But, today I am going to list the questions/suggestions that irked me a lot!

  • Do not eat that!

According to my next-door-aunty, all my favorite food are harmful for my baby.  Want Chinese food, you cannot have it. Crave for some Pasta, that’s no good either. Only home-made food with dripping butter is good to have. It’s time to eat more sweets, else you might not have a healthy child. To that Aunty ji, thanks but no thanks!

  • Are you sure you are ready to take care of a child? You would lose all your sleep.

A pregnant women has too much to think of,  please do not add more to her worries. Planned or unplanned, she is giving birth to a child, so obviously she has thought about it and is ready.  Give her some love and support, encourage her!

  • You are the mother, don’t depend too much on husband

I have lost count of how many people had told me this. I understand that in earlier times the roles of men & women in a household had rigid boundaries. Now, as we move towards nuclear family why am I the only one responsible for our child? My husband is equally responsible and he understands his duties towards our baby.

  • You have become fat.

Thanks for the reminder, I was unaware of it. A new life is taking form inside me, so yes I know I have gained weight.  If someone is too thin or too fat, let them be. Stop body shaming pregnant women!

  • Any day now ?

Once you are in your last trimester, random people will come up to you with this question. You can be in office or out shopping. By the time my child was born, I was fed up people repeating the same question every time they met me. If only I could wash those smirked looks on their faces!

It might seem like I have a grudge against people giving me suggestions. But that’s not true! I had support of wonderful family & friends who were there for me. Ready to hear out my random blabber & calm me down. Still, dealing with the bunch of nosy aunties is a momentous task. Don’t be that nosy aunty. If someone around you is pregnant then help them, encourage them, keep them happy!

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by Healthwealthbridge.com ,Fashionablefoodz.com, Allaboutthewoman.com and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

Motherhood – the gift of a lifetime! #FeedIQ

“Babies are bits of star-dust blown from the hand of God. Lucky the woman who knows the pangs of birth for she has held a star.”

– Larry Barretto

Embracing motherhood is the biggest challenge that a woman can ever face. To be responsible for a new life is a momentous task! You take the leap from thinking about yourself to thinking about your child. Life goes from me to us and you experience unexpected transformations in life.

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From living a 9-to-5 life to a 24*7 life is a big thing. Binge-watching TV shows and impromptu night-outs become a thing of the past. When will the kid sleep, when will he eat or when will he poop: all these factors are taken into consideration while making simple decisions like when to go out.

I have always been the one to believe in multitasking and pregnancy taught me how to put my abilities to good use. You can be relaxing while gazillion things go through your mind. Juggling between office and home with pregnancy made me a better organizer.  And, I hope my kids can also learn the skills to prioritize and be confident enough to sail through tough times.

Pregnancy can be a very confusing time with umpteen questions grazing through your mind: what to eat, what to expect, how to help with baby brain development, and more. Here’s where joining prenatal classes can come in handy.

How can prenatal classes help?

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The prenatal classes make parenting easy and help parents to prepare what to expect. Few of the benefits are listed below –

  • Help understanding pregnancy – Prenatal classes conduct sessions to explain baby growth during pregnancy. The classes help you track healthy developments in your pregnancy, and teach you the warning signs for when something might go wrong. Being aware will help you avoid the risk of premature delivery which can result in incomplete brain development.
  • Understanding the importance of healthy nutrition during pregnancy – The classes help you by providing proper diet charts mentioning food rich with folic acid, vitamins, minerals, protein, and iron that help to boost your baby’s IQ. Right food during pregnancy leads to improved health of the baby at birth. You can read more about your nutrition requirement here.
  • Teach exercises to ease pregnancy  Many prenatal classes conduct workout sessions for expecting mothers. As little as 20 minutes of exercise three times per week can advance a newborn’s brain activity. Aerobic exercise increases mitochondrial activity in a mother’s brain, and this effect crosses the placenta and benefits the fetal brain as well.
  • Teach relaxation techniques  The emotional and physical changes during pregnancy can cause stress in few mothers. High-stress level causes cortisol hormone to be released into the body which can interfere with the fetal development. Relaxing techniques like prenatal yoga and meditation help you relax.
  • Teach auditory stimulation and tactile stimulation techniques – At 20 weeks, your baby’s hearing becomes fully developed and baby reacts when you talk. At 28 weeks you can feel the baby movements through mother’s belly. The prenatal classes help in understanding this and teach you to respond to the child by either reading books, singing or pressing the belly whenever you feel the kicks. It is the best way to boost your baby’s IQ and language development. Visit here to know more about the importance of stimulation techniques.

Source-https://sites.google.com/site/lifespandevelopmentedpr2111/cognitive-development

  • Conduct breastfeeding classes – The classes teach breastfeeding mechanism to new mothers. The nutritional requirements of a baby are fully dependent on a mother in the early stages of life which helps develop infant cognition, thereby creating a fertile ground for better IQ. For more details on breastfeeding basics,visit this page.
  • Debunk myths of labor by rehearsal sessions – The prenatal classes conduct the session on what to expect during labor and delivery. They teach symptoms to identify when labor starts and the pain relief options that can make labor comfortable.
  • Conduct couple sessions – In keeping with the current times, you can also enroll for couple sessions. These classes help in understanding the importance of a birthing partner. Taking a class together can mean father’s increased involvement in the pregnancy, and can act as a good bonding experience for the child. Like the mother, the father can also benefit from knowing what to expect when the mother goes into labor – and how to assist in that process.
  • Provide support groups for expecting mothers – You can find support from other expectant couples in the class. You can share your joy and concerns with them because they will understand you. They are your ecosystem and you can fall back on them anytime. It’s rightly said that it takes a village to raise a kid!

What is Feed IQ?

Feed IQ literally means that a mother feeds ‘IQ’ to her baby through breastfeeding and stimulation i.e. infant brain exercises. It is helpful for all: pregnant women, term mothers, and pre-term mothers. Some of the information you can find out includes –

  • Track your baby’s growth during pregnancy
  • Nutrition tips for mother
  • Learn exercises and relaxation techniques
  • How to make your pregnancy, labor, and delivery more comfortable
  • Signs to identify labor and various pain relief options
  • Breastfeeding mechanism
  • Baby food tips for pre-term and full-term kids
  • Understand stimulation techniques for baby brain development

There can be conflicting opinions about whether to join prenatal classes or not. At least, the prenatal classes make you less fearful and armed with some childbirth knowledge. It is always better to have the know-how rather than being unprepared for it.The classes offer an extra cushion of comfort during pregnancy and make your birthing journey easy.

DISCLAIMER –

This information is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your physician or other qualified health provider with any questions about your medical condition.

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