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5 things you should never tell a new mom! #Superbloggerchallenge2018

Motherhood is a nerve-racking experience where your hormones play havoc & to top that there are people giving unsolicited advice. You might have thought after pregnancy you will not be dealing with the nosy aunties & uncles. Bet you were wrong! If you are visiting a new mom then remember these five things you should never say to them.

  1. Watch your weight – She does not need to know how soon you had lost your baby weight. She is an individual & everybody has a unique body type. You do not need to brag about it. Let her be herself!
  2. Breastfeeding or formula – What a mother decides for her child is a private affair. You are not welcome to comment on it. This is not a general discussion topic. Though breastfeeding is mandatory for first six months, there can be rare circumstances which need an alternative.
  3. Her baby cries too much – A baby has needs which a mother knows best. She understands her child’s cry and expressions. Do not always tell her that the baby is fussy so it needs to fed. Baby might need a diaper change or could be sleepy or be tired. Do not interfere too much with how a mother handles her child.
  4. Catch your sleep when baby sleeps – This is practically the most absurd suggestion I have heard. A new-born cries-feeds-burps-vomits-poops-sleeps, this is a vicious cycle. By the time mother can sit the child is up again. And there are a gazillion things to do when a baby sleeps. Instead of commenting, help her out by taking up household tasks.
  5. Discuss her future plans – A mother may decide to stay at home for her kids or join her job back. It’s her decision & she will weigh out all her options. Do not make her feel guilty if she joins office & do not make her feel insignificant if she chooses to stay at home.

I am sure you can relate to few of these pointers. Do share what was the most annoying suggestion you ever got?

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by ,, and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

Things all pregnant women hear! #SUPERBLOGGERCHALLENGE2018

You should add butter to your food. You should gain more weight. Aren’t you too fat already?  – Do these questions remind you something or someone? Well, these are just some of the questions that either you or other pregnant women around you are asked everyday.

Pregnancy is a beautiful phase & everyone around you has some piece of advice for you.  And, the wisdom of others is no doubt helpful. But, where should you draw the line? Some people have no idea of when to stop. It can be your nosy next door neighbor or a random stranger in market. Nothing stops them for giving unsolicited advice!

There were many genuine suggestions that I got during my pregnancy and  I am thankful for it. But, today I am going to list the questions/suggestions that irked me a lot!

  • Do not eat that!

According to my next-door-aunty, all my favorite food are harmful for my baby.  Want Chinese food, you cannot have it. Crave for some Pasta, that’s no good either. Only home-made food with dripping butter is good to have. It’s time to eat more sweets, else you might not have a healthy child. To that Aunty ji, thanks but no thanks!

  • Are you sure you are ready to take care of a child? You would lose all your sleep.

A pregnant women has too much to think of,  please do not add more to her worries. Planned or unplanned, she is giving birth to a child, so obviously she has thought about it and is ready.  Give her some love and support, encourage her!

  • You are the mother, don’t depend too much on husband

I have lost count of how many people had told me this. I understand that in earlier times the roles of men & women in a household had rigid boundaries. Now, as we move towards nuclear family why am I the only one responsible for our child? My husband is equally responsible and he understands his duties towards our baby.

  • You have become fat.

Thanks for the reminder, I was unaware of it. A new life is taking form inside me, so yes I know I have gained weight.  If someone is too thin or too fat, let them be. Stop body shaming pregnant women!

  • Any day now ?

Once you are in your last trimester, random people will come up to you with this question. You can be in office or out shopping. By the time my child was born, I was fed up people repeating the same question every time they met me. If only I could wash those smirked looks on their faces!

It might seem like I have a grudge against people giving me suggestions. But that’s not true! I had support of wonderful family & friends who were there for me. Ready to hear out my random blabber & calm me down. Still, dealing with the bunch of nosy aunties is a momentous task. Don’t be that nosy aunty. If someone around you is pregnant then help them, encourage them, keep them happy!

Note- *This article is written as a part of #SuperBloggerChallenge2018 conducted by ,, and should not be re purposed, republished or used otherwise. The content herein is owned by the blogger. SuperBloggerChallenge2018 is not responsible for any kind of infringement caused*

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